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Habits Of Happy Couples

They go to bed at the same time.
They cultivate common interests.
They walk hand in hand.
They focus more on what their partner does right than what they do wrong.
They embrace when they see each other after the workday or other activities.
They trust and forgive.
They say "I love you" and "Have a good day."
They say "Good night" every night.
They call or send a message to their partner during the day.
They feel proud of their partner.

What NOT to Talk About on a First Date

First dates are scary, nerve-wracking, and potentially awesome. Or terrible. You never know what you're getting into, but hopefully you'll avoid talking about some of the things that could make it turn for the worst...

#1. Your Future Wedding
Stop yourself right now. Even if you're doing something cute like saving the menu or stealing a pint class from the location of your first date, do NOT mention your future nuptials, the perfect way to scare off an otherwise great date.

#2. Your Ex
This sounds like a no-brainer but the topic comes up, a lot. Chances are, you were close to your ex and have a lot of memories with him or her. Even if you're on good terms, don't mention them. Just don't.

#4. Your Intimate Life
Your date doesn't want to know the last time you've slept with someone and they also don't want to hear how many other people you are (or aren't) seeing. Save that for your friends!

#5 Your Strange Theories
These can be cute and quirky, but maybe more second date material. You don't want to make your date feel awkward if they don't agree, nor do you want to scare them off with your thoughts on the existence or lack thereof of martians.

#6 Your Shrink

You may live in a community where it's popular to see a therapist, and mental health is super important, but you probably wouldn't detail your last dentist appointment and trip to the pharmacy on this date, would you?

#7 Your Cheese Allergy
If you're allergic, just avoid it. No one wants to know or think about what happens when you eat cheese, or whatever it is that makes you ill.

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Signs You Found Your Soul-Mate

There are people you meet who, for no reason you can explain, you share a connection with on a deeper level than anyone else you've ever known. Whether you believe in the kind of a soul mate born from fiction and fairy tales, or simply hope that there is someone out there who is meant just for you, there are some sure signs to tell if you're on the right track to finding them. And if you've found the one who truly understands and knows you (and loves you still), don't let go — they only come around once in a lifetime!

Here are some signs you may have found "the one":

You can convey what you're thinking by just looking at each other.
You can't even remember what it was like to be without them — and you don't want to!
They challenge you every single day.
They know exactly what to do to calm you down when you're mad, to help relieve your stress, or to cheer you up.
They also know exactly what to do to get under your skin . . . and they at least attempt to not do those things.
Even after years of being together, you still have great chemistry.
You are completely comfortable in their presence.
After spending a few days apart, you both talk a mile a minute to catch each other up on everything you both missed.
It feels like you've known each other your whole lives.
You disagree on some things, but are always on the same page when it really matters.
You have a bond that people around you don't understand.
Their family feels like your own family.
You don't feel the need to keep searching for more because you are so at peace with what you have.
You hurt when they hurt; you smile when they smile.
They are part of almost every story you tell.
They think the weird, quirky things you do are adorable, and you feel the same way about them, too.
You are a better person with them than without them.
They support you and your dreams — even if they don't entirely understand them.
You are a dynamic duo, a perfect pair, a true team.
You feel protected by them and secure in your relationship.
For the first time in your life, you realize that home is not a place, but a person.
In some ways, you have become pretty much the same person.
You are your best and worst self around them, and they love you for both.
You know, in your gut, that this is it for you.

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Singles Services in Silicon Valley

Marsha and her associate Judi offer the following services:

Dating advice/coaching
Image consulting
Make up application and hair style advice
Personal shopping
Pet sitting for that romantic date that will hopefully last into the wee hours, and other customized services that aid the busy single parent.

Contact Marsha today. With her years of experience and knowledge about what it takes to create successful relationships, she can help you find the perfect partner and end your dating days forever.

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16 Interesting Facts about the "Kiss"

1. When you kiss someone for the first time, you get a spike in the neurotransmitter dopamine, making you crave more.

2. Dopamine can also make you lose your appetite and make it hard for you to sleep.

3. Two thirds of people tilt their head to the right when they kiss. (German researcher Onur Güntürkün discovered this after spying on 224 couples kissing in public places in the United States, Germany and Turkey.)

4. Kissing helps us work out if someone is a good match. (According to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, we tend to prefer people with particular biological profiles. Trading saliva is one way to figure out if someone is a good fit.)

5. When you kiss someone your heart beats faster and more oxygen reaches your brain. All thanks to neurotransmitters epinephrine and norepinephrine which promote the fight-or-flight response.

6. And it makes your pupils dilate. (Which might be why we usually close our eyes.)

7. Endorphins released during kissing bring on waves of euphoria. You can thank your pituitary gland and hypothalamus for this natural high.

8. The muscle you use to pucker your lips is called the “orbicularis oris”. And the shape you make with your mouth mirrors that of a breastfeeding baby, hinting at one possible way that kissing evolved.

9. Nachküssen is a German word that means “a kiss to make up for those that have not occurred”.

10. Kissing triggers the release of oxytocin in your body. Often called the “love hormone”, though that’s not all it does by a long stretch, oxytocin is involved in developing feelings of attachment. It’s thought to be what keeps the love in a relationship alive long after the initial honeymoon period (and dopamine spike) is over.

11. More kissing in a relationship is related to how satisfied people say they are in that relationship.

12. Women tend to rate kissing as more important in relationships than men do.

13. The world record for the longest kiss stands at well over two days. (It’s held by Thai couple Ekkachai Tiranarat and Laksana Tiranarat who set it in the run up to Valentine’s day last year, with a kiss lasting 58 hours, 35 minutes and 58 seconds.)

14. Your lips have a disproportionate number of nerve endings compared to other parts of your body.

15. When your lips touch someone else’s 5 out of 12 of your cranial nerves are engaged.

16. Over time, kissing lowers your levels of stress hormone cortisol, making you feel all safe and secure. (The longer you’ve been with someone, the bigger the decline.)

Making a Good First Impression

Here's how to make an impression on every one you meet:

Know the News: Current events are automatic chitchat topics. Know the deets on that interesting new study that just came out. (But do stay away from politics) Goodbye, awkward silences!

Be the First One to Smile and Make Eye Contact: You may be more willing to smile back at someone if they make the first move, but you'll meet way more people if you take a pro-active approach. Find someone who's not currently engaged in a conversation and looks approachable, and look their way. If they grin back at you, that's a green light to head over there and start chatting.

Make Your Intro Memorable: Try a 7 to 9 second greeting, including your name and - instead of your job title - one reason you're passionate about what you do. If you say something compelling about what you do - rather than just rattling off your title - you'll strike up a much better conversation.

Pretend the Person You're Talking to is the Only One in the Room: There is nothing more off-putting and insulting to people than to have someone talking to them and looking around to see who else is in the room. It might sound obvious, but you know you've had someone do this to you—so don't let yourself be guilty of this the next time you go to an event. Same goes for checking your phone mid-conversation

Open Up About Yourself: If all you're doing is asking questions, that gets tiring, and people may think you're nosy, instead ask that person about him or herself and comment on their responses, but also go ahead and share your own stories. Be sure to keep it upbeat and focus on topics that will keep the convo going so that you don't come off as too self-obsessed. As long as you're giving them room to respond to what you're saying, you're good.