What NOT to Talk About on a First Date

First dates are scary, nerve-wracking, and potentially awesome. Or terrible. You never know what you're getting into, but hopefully you'll avoid talking about some of the things that could make it turn for the worst...

#1. Your Future Wedding
Stop yourself right now. Even if you're doing something cute like saving the menu or stealing a pint class from the location of your first date, do NOT mention your future nuptials, the perfect way to scare off an otherwise great date.

  

#2. Your Ex
This sounds like a no-brainer but the topic comes up, a lot. Chances are, you were close to your ex and have a lot of memories with him or her. Even if you're on good terms, don't mention them. Just don't.

#4. Your Intimate Life
Your date doesn't want to know the last time you've slept with someone and they also don't want to hear how many other people you are (or aren't) seeing. Save that for your friends! 
 

 


#5 Your Strange Theories
These can be cute and quirky, but maybe more second date material. You don't want to make your date feel awkward if they don't agree, nor do you want to scare them off with your thoughts on the existence or lack thereof of martians.

#6 Your Shrink 

You may live in a community where it's popular to see a therapist, and mental health is super important, but you probably wouldn't detail your last dentist appointment and trip to the pharmacy on this date, would you? 

#7 Your Cheese Allergy
If you're allergic, just avoid it. No one wants to know or think about what happens when you eat cheese, or whatever it is that makes you ill. 

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Signs You Found Your Soul-Mate

There are people you meet who, for no reason you can explain, you share a connection with on a deeper level than anyone else you've ever known. Whether you believe in the kind of a soul mate born from fiction and fairy tales, or simply hope that there is someone out there who is meant just for you, there are some sure signs to tell if you're on the right track to finding them. And if you've found the one who truly understands and knows you (and loves you still), don't let go — they only come around once in a lifetime!




Here are some signs you may have found "the one":

• You can convey what you're thinking by just looking at each other.
• You can't even remember what it was like to be without them — and you don't want to!
• They challenge you every single day.
• They know exactly what to do to calm you down when you're mad, to help relieve your stress, or to cheer you up.
• They also know exactly what to do to get under your skin . . . and they at least attempt to not do those things.
• Even after years of being together, you still have great chemistry.
• You are completely comfortable in their presence.
• After spending a few days apart, you both talk a mile a minute to catch each other up on everything you both missed.
• It feels like you've known each other your whole lives.
• You disagree on some things, but are always on the same page when it really matters. 
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• You have a bond that people around you don't understand.
• Their family feels like your own family.
• You don't feel the need to keep searching for more because you are so at peace with what you have.
• You hurt when they hurt; you smile when they smile.
• They are part of almost every story you tell.
• They think the weird, quirky things you do are adorable, and you feel the same way about them, too.
• You are a better person with them than without them.
• They support you and your dreams — even if they don't entirely understand them.
• You are a dynamic duo, a perfect pair, a true team.
• You feel protected by them and secure in your relationship.
• For the first time in your life, you realize that home is not a place, but a person.
• In some ways, you have become pretty much the same person.
• You are your best and worst self around them, and they love you for both.
• You know, in your gut, that this is it for you. 

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Making a Good First Impression

Here's how to make an impression on every one you meet:

Know the News: Current events are automatic chitchat topics. Know the deets on that interesting new study that just came out. (But do stay away from politics) Goodbye, awkward silences!

Be the First One to Smile and Make Eye Contact: You may be more willing to smile back at someone if they make the first move, but you'll meet way more people if you take a pro-active approach. Find someone who's not currently engaged in a conversation and looks approachable, and look their way. If they grin back at you, that's a green light to head over there and start chatting.

Make Your Intro Memorable: Try a 7 to 9 second greeting, including your name and - instead of your job title - one reason you're passionate about what you do. If you say something compelling about what you do - rather than just rattling off your title - you'll strike up a much better conversation.

Pretend the Person You're Talking to is the Only One in the Room: There is nothing more off-putting and insulting to people than to have someone talking to them and looking around to see who else is in the room. It might sound obvious, but you know you've had someone do this to you—so don't let yourself be guilty of this the next time you go to an event. Same goes for checking your phone mid-conversation

Open Up About Yourself: If all you're doing is asking questions, that gets tiring, and people may think you're nosy, instead ask that person about him or herself and comment on their responses, but also go ahead and share your own stories. Be sure to keep it upbeat and focus on topics that will keep the convo going so that you don't come off as too self-obsessed. As long as you're giving them room to respond to what you're saying, you're good.

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