We all know people who seem to have solid summer schedules, no matter their romantic status. They’re grilling by the lake, hopping on stand-up paddleboards, fishing with nieces and nephews, organizing brunches or happy hours, visiting old high school friends, trying out yoga in the park or joining running or cycling groups. They realize that watching fireworks or an outdoor film is much more fun on a blanket with a sweetie, yet they still manage to set up satisfying single lives. Then there are people who tend to float through lazy summer days. Of course, some people don’t over-plan on purpose.
This is the time of year when the world is sunniest and most alive. The weeks fly by quickly, so be mindful of how you want to spend your time – with or without a significant other.
1) Find activities where you can meet other people.
This advice is pretty standard, but it’s worth repeating. Find things to do where there will be other single people. Check out Meetups, religious organizations, community associations, recreational leagues, alumni groups or the bulletin board at your local sporting goods store or café. There is a shocking amount of things to do out there, and it doesn’t take much effort to learn about them.
2) Find activities where you don’t have to meet other people.
You don’t hear this advice often, but sometimes I think it can be more important than approaching a cluster of eligible singles with nametags. If you’re looking for love, sometimes it’s exhausting always being in a “looking” state of mind. If you think of going on a date as having to put on a “game face,” then it’s time to take a break and reconnect with yourself. Go swimming with your college roommate and don’t worry if your roots are showing. Have a few beers with your cousin at an outside café and really listen to the family gossip without constantly checking out who else is there. Or find an activity where you’re just looking to meet friends. When you’re relaxed and happy, you’ll have a better chance of connecting with someone special later. Bonus points if you swear off eye makeup or dig out those old paint-splattered cargo shorts that no one thinks look good.
3) Create your own adventure.
Maybe you don’t have vacation days or a group of pals available to hang out with. You can organize your own events by asking people you do know to join you at a local concert on the lawn. Or maybe you resolve to try out a new café or craft brewery every week. Want to try out sailing but don’t know anyone with a boat? Add your name to a local yacht club’s bulletin board for skippers looking for crew.
Take charge of your single life and makes some plans. Go on a road trip to visit a special aunt or old friend. Take some pics and post them on your online dating profile. And bring back some good stories to tell your dates.